A Lucky Man
This post is dedicated to Louise. When we first started out on this journey, it was Louise who coined the phrase "We are on this road together". She has been so true to that sentiment. I get a lot of people who comment that I am very "positive" or have a great "attitude", well, I have to confess to some moments in the last few months that have not been quite like that. There have dark times when I have looked at my kids and wondered if I would be there for them at their next birthday. I had a lot of worries about my lung status in recent weeks, and Louise was right there with me during the bad times.
We all know that's what it takes in any kind of relationship to keep things going. Give and take between partners, right now Louise is doing a whole lot of giving. One of the worst parts of my therapy is taking oral prednisone for 5 days after chemo. The prednisone has a side effect of making me short tempered at times, not a good thing with three kids in the house! At least I am aware of this effect, but Louise (and the kids) still have to put up with me.
Louise has been there with me for every single doctors visit, she has made the calls to the doctors office, she has driven me everywhere, she has sat through 4 chemotherapy sessions lasting up to 7 hours each, in an uncomfortable chair my I add! Louise attends to the medical bills, the phone calls to the house. All this and she runs the kids around to their various activities. The toll on the caregiver of a cancer patient is well documented. I have seen Louise rightfully as exhausted as myself by certain parts of our journey.
For those that know Louise, let me tell you that you are lucky if you can count her as a friend. I have never known anyone to tolerate the good and bad of an individual so well. Once you are fortunate to know Louise as a friend, know that you will be her friend for life, she will be there for you, just as she has been there for me.
Louise, you are my friend, my love, my everything (was that a Barry White song?). I am such a lucky man to have her. Today is Louise's birthday, so please send her your best wishes when you have a moment.
Paul. October 27. 2007.
P.S. If this does not get me a 52" plasma screen HDTV I am not sure what will!





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